It was on March 14, 1987 – 30 years ago this past Tuesday – that my wife, Beverly, and I said “I do.”
We could not have known then that the Lord’s plan was to bring us to Macon and to Ingleside in 1989, or that two girls would be born and reared, and launched into life from here.
But now, from a three-decades-in perspective, we see that in ways far too many to number the Lord has “dealt bountifully” with us (Psalm 13:6) and that “the lines” of our lives “have fallen for [us] in pleasant places (Psalm 16:6).
Of course, our marriage journey has been greatly influenced by our parents. We both have had good examples of long, strong marriages. My parents were married for almost 59 years, and Beverly’s parents will soon celebrate 59 years as well.
Our marriage journey has also been defined, shaped, nurtured and enriched by our personal relationships with the Lord, by abiding in his Word, and by relationships with others on the same journey in the church.
Quoting Genesis 1:27 and Genesis 2:24 affirmatively, our Lord Jesus said these words about marriage:
“Have you not read that he who created them from the beginning made them male and female, and said, ‘Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh’? So they are no long two, but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let not man separate” (Matthew 19:4-6, ESV).
We’ve asked the Lord again and again across the years to show us how and give us grace to love and submit, to cherish and respect so that our relationship would glorify him by imaging the relationship between Christ and the Church (Ephesians 5).
Of course, it’s not been a journey free from difficulty, or conflict, or challenge. The equation for us, like for everyone else, has been: 1 sinner + 1 sinner + 2 little “sinnerlings” = conflict. No one is exempt from the fallen human condition!
Yet, it’s also been a journey filled with lots of love, deep joy, and great blessing. For that we are very, very thankful!
I hope our marriage journey will be an encouragement to you and yours. We’re eager to begin work on the next thirty!
Your Pastor and Friend,